We have all learned from our lives. Some of the ways we learned to cope with tough times may have helped us survive then, but now they may have become patterns that keep us stuck. For example we may hurt ourselves through addictions, unhealthy eating or sleeping. or cutting or punching ourselves. People might label us (e.g. “he’s just an addict") or blame us. Sometimes our habits are not so easy to see — like when we repeat over and over in our heads that we are stupid. we can’t do anything right, we don’t deserve love or anything else good...
All these patterns started as a way to cope with hard times, probably a very long time ago. Now the same habits often get in the way of learning - being disorganized messes things up at school, and serious habits like addiction or cutting mess everything up. Telling yourself every day that you are forgetful or stupid makes learning new things much harder.
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