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Making Stories of Violence Known

Advice on Giving Advice
In this video, Kate Nonesuch talks about the dangers of giving advice. It’s complicated – we may want to encourage learners, colleagues, and friends to act when we believe they need to change,  especially if we think they need to leave a home where there’s abuse. But we don’t have the right to tell other adults what they “should” do. We have to remember we may be entirely wrong about where they are safest, or what will be “better” for them.

Kate’s warnings are especially important for learners dealing with the impacts of violence. In the aftermath of violence many of us learn to doubt ourselves – we feel afraid to act, afraid to risk being wrong. We may look a bit helpless, asking others what to do or asking permission for everything… But giving advice will only make things worse. Kate explains why.

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Finding an Appropriate Counsellor (PDF file)

When supporting people who are dealing with past or present violence, we may sometimes feel that we need to talk with someone. We may need a counsellor, therapist, elder or other professional to support us. And learners may likewise need someone besides us to talk to. We can be supportive, and keep the focus on learning, but learners may need to address their issues in another context. Finding someone to talk to yourself and helping others to find the right person to talk to will be a different process in different places, but here are some touchstones and tips to guide everyone seeking this kind of helper.

What to Tell Others
As a student, when and what will you choose to tell your teachers and fellow students?

Keeping Confidences (PDF file)

Responding to Disclosures of Abuse in Women’s Lives

A guide for teachers of literacy: What can you do? (PDF file)
As an educator it is important to offer support and to stay focused on your main task of supporting change through supporting learning.

Teachers You Can Trust (PDF file)
How educators can assist learners who have been sexually abused.